Thursday, June 23, 2011

June 22

I was a mess yesterday and I'm not proud of it.  Lapse of self control.  Lapse of strength.  Lapse of courage.  Everything.  It was stupid and shouldn't have happened.  I had another tear fest when I went to bed last night, but not because I was upset or anything.  Well, I guess I was upset, but not like that.  I just can't help but wish I could fix things.  I am so sorry for everything I've done, and didn't do, to the point where it drove me to tears.  It was comparable to how much I cried after the last time I talked to Katy.  But I wasn't tearing myself up this time.  I genuinely felt sad and sorry.  And I don't think there's any amount of apologizing that can fix things.  I don't know how to fix things.  I don't even think I deserve the chance after what I've done.  And that kills me.  I am so sorry.

Normally being held and told that everything would be okay would suffice, but I needed more last night.  I would have given anything to have been able to just talk through what was going on in my head.  I needed someone to listen.  Just listen.  No words needed to be spoken back.  I just needed to verbally express the thoughts and feelings in my head.  That someone couldn't be just anyone, despite how I normally tend to vent.  This someone needed to be the someone.  The someone I've always wanted but never allowed myself to have.  The one I was always too afraid to have.  I would still love it if I were able to develop that kind of relationship with Erin and/or Katy, but to be honest, the more and more I think about it, the more and more I don't think it will never happen.  I'm starting to think that maybe even being friends won't happen.  And it's heartbreaking that that thought has been running through my mind.  I don't deserve their time.  I don't deserve another chance.  I was given too many to begin with.  I'm thankful for that extra time, I just regret not using it the right way.  I don't think I could ever make it up to them.  I don't think I could ever give them everything they gave to me.  If given the chance, I would do everything in my power to try.  I know what to do, I just don't know how to do it.  It'll be a learning process and it might take some time, but I would make sure it was worth it.  But I still don't think I deserve that chance.  There's really no guarantee that anything would change.

I was able to fall asleep around 2:30, but Scout was being spastic all morning and woke me up at multiple times.  Unfortunately, she didn't wake me up when I was supposed to wake up, so instead, I woke up when I was suppose to leave for Motive.  I was only 10 minutes late, so it worked out.  I actually did stuff today, but the intern schedule got shifted around.  So now instead of having all the interns in on the same days, it's limited to 3 a day.  And my days to come in are now Wednesday and Friday.  However, Becca texted me about an hour ago asking if I could come in tomorrow.  I have nothing better to do, so I agreed to come in.

My head was full of doubts on my drive home, and I tried to fight it, but I couldn't.  As much progress that I had thought I made recently, it's really nothing.  I have so much further to go in order to get my act together.  Maybe I really do need to actively seek help.  It would be so much easier to give up at this point, to just go back to the way things were, but I wasn't happy like that.  I don't know if I'll be happy in the future, but I'd like to hope I will be.  I hope I can at least reach some level of complacency and not feel like it's always me against the world.  But I guess that's selfishness.  I need to be less selfish.

I'm just scared.  What if I don't get better?  What if it's impossible for me to change?  What if I really am incapable of being the person I always wished I could be?

I've been failing for years, but I guess that just means I'm not trying hard enough.  I really don't have the energy anymore.  I have the goal in mind, although possibly unobtainable, and I have the motivation, I just need the drive and energy.  And support.  Support would be fantastic right about now, but I don't really know where to get that.  I'm not enough.

I need to know that everything's going to be okay.
Right now, I don't see signs that it will.

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